Thoughts from Andrew

Belief

The formation of identity depends on belief—what a person believes about himself and what others believe about him.

Some people believe that they have challenges for a reason, that their experiences of difficulty have inherent meaning. Beliefs can make a given condition easier or harder to countenance.

There is no such thing as reproduction. When two people decide to have a baby, they engage in an act of production, and the widespread use of the word…

I hate the loss of diversity in the world, even though I sometimes get a little worn out by being that diversity. I don’t wish for anyone in particular…

All kinds of attributes make one less able. Illiteracy and poverty are disabilities, and so are stupidity, obesity, and boringness. Extreme age and extreme…

If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes—and we become attached to the heroic strain in our lives. We choose our own lives.  It is not simply…

One cannot imagine thought without language any more than one can imagine language without thought.

"While I'm pretty comfortable with my disability and don't see C.I. [cochlear implant] as an evil force intent on destroying the Deaf culture, I…

"The other day Clinton came home, and he goes, 'Ma, I saw a blind man today with a stick, in Manhattan. There were people rushing back and forth,…

Some parents manufacture an affirmative construction of their child’s disability to disguise their despair, while others have a deep and genuine experience…

Every parent, without exception, reported on children who tried hard to please them. Stubborn, intractable when stuck on an idea, they nonetheless had…

"Cece is the Zen lesson. Why does Cece have autism? Because Cece has autism. And what is it like to be Cece? Being Cece. Because no one else is,…

When asked what he was thinking, Malcolm Pease said, "I do not like sex or French kissing. There is gas outside of the Indian Ocean, and there are…

"The therapist who helped the most said, 'You've had the star quarterback. He’s run over by a truck, breaks every limb in his body. Your hope now…

"I think most people I know, if a child had been given to them who was profoundly disabled, would have risen to the occasion. I need to believe that.…

"I didn't want to teach him. Such imagination can be very fragile. But his mother said, 'Clever and faithful helper, don't worry. He is interested…

"It was a trio. The bass player is 65, the drummer is maybe 58, and I'm nine, and I’m the leader. I didn't pay attention to the audience. It's…

"I want to give people pleasure. I love the phrase preferable to silence. Is this piece of music preferable to silence? We're in the business of…

Small children go from nonverbal to verbal in two years, and to literate in five more. They can master several languages at the same time. They learn…

"Can you tell me how to love my daughter more?" she asked. "I want to love her so much, and I try my best, but when I look at her I see…

"One thing he's proud of in the gang is that he tells other people what to do. He’s always on that cell phone barking out orders in Spanish. I…

"I think the other parents believed they had experienced loss, and I had not, because their children were of value, and mine was not. My child died…

"I've felt sometimes that the guy who is me—this guy Eli—is out there somewhere, waiting for me to find him, waiting for me to figure out how…

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