I have 3 sons .. ages 19, 19, and 15. For the past 4 years I have parented them alone after my husband of 25 years, and their father, abandoned us and hid behind Family Law as he rebuilt his new life. Each of my sons has a story. This first one is about one of the twins .. the one who had a complete breakdown when his father left and what I did to try to make sense of it all. My other two sons have…View more
We no longer blame parents for producing autistic or schizophrenic children, but we continue to hold families responsible for having children who commit crimes. Early trauma can contribute to criminal behavior, but the tendency toward criminality is also a bewildering illness.
Criminals themselves often wish that they could subdue their destructive impulses. Yet some kinds of criminality entail intimacy, and the community of crime becomes a pseudofamily for many gang members.scroll
Matthew Shepard was murdered in October of 1998. This was done because he was gay. He died alone, tied to a fence on the Wyoming range. He was a thoughtful, kind person and he left us at 21. I wrote a mini-poem for him and am absolutely convinced that Matthew's memory endures:View more
Matthew Shepard wide the sky, long and blue before my eye, endless you are, yes you stand me up, never really…
My dear son, who was 17 years of age, ended up being arrested for going along with armed robberies. Two robberies, in fact. He was sentenced to 20 years and 4 months behind bars after being tried as an adult. This is a non-murder case, although a man was shot in the leg (not by my son). Yet my son was considered a part of the crime, and was still sentenced for this length of time. He is now 19 years…View more
My fiance has an adopted child who has some violent tendencies and has been to multiple short- and long-term facilities for treatment. He has recently threatened to kill my fiance and was taken to a facility but was released to his mother after a few days even though there has not been a big change in attitude.View more
Where do you go for help if the resources available to you have not worked…