I was one of those who was profoundly sexually abused, and when something happened in the news -- when I was 32 -- I cracked. I disclosed to the rest of my family that my father had been my perpetrator. I really wished that my father could say he never really meant to hurt me; I wished more that my other family members would stand up for me and rally to my side.
I have done much therapy,…
Rape
Women who conceive through rape and choose to keep their children often face stigma and disgrace. They must constantly struggle to engage with these children without blaming them for the trauma that produced them.
Whether, what, and when to tell the children about the circumstances of their conception are loaded questions: it is awful to know that one was conceived in brutality, but it is also awful to have been ignorant of one's origins and find out through happenstance.
These children may belong to an identity group without knowing it; they may struggle all their lives with their mothers' ambivalence about them without having a clue about its cause.
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Invisible MN , United States