I have been waiting my whole life for this book. My disability is more complex than I can explain. It involves medical components, emotional components, mental components, mobility components and more. It took me a long time for me to believe that I was even smart (with a 130-150 IQ I finally believe I am). It has been a lifetime struggle to define myself as more then just a disabled person, or a…View more
Women who conceive through rape and choose to keep their children often face stigma and disgrace. They must constantly struggle to engage with these children without blaming them for the trauma that produced them.
Whether, what, and when to tell the children about the circumstances of their conception are loaded questions: it is awful to know that one was conceived in brutality, but it is also awful to have been ignorant of one's origins and find out through happenstance.
These children may belong to an identity group without knowing it; they may struggle all their lives with their mothers' ambivalence about them without having a clue about its cause.scroll
I was one of those who was profoundly sexually abused, and when something happened in the news -- when I was 32 -- I cracked. I disclosed to the rest of my family that my father had been my perpetrator. I really wished that my father could say he never really meant to hurt me; I wished more that my other family members would stand up for me and rally to my side.View more
I have done much therapy,…