I was far from the tree
After reading Far From the Tree I realized I wasn't alone. The treatment I had received from my nuclear and extended families made sense. Once my family knew that I was aware of being adopted the gloves came off. Frequently on holidays my larger cousins would hold me down while the others called me names and/or punched me. Comments like "Your mom likes me better than you because I'm blood" and "I love your brother and sister more than you because they CAME from me," made sense after reading this book. I was definitely a horizontal identity and one that was painfully aware of it. I thank you for offering me an explanation for their behaviors and for finally convincing me that it wasn't my fault.