My 19 year old daughter has recently told me that she is Pansexual. That was a new one to me - so I have since researched it and am trying to understand it fully. I am fortunate that she has felt safe and comfortable enough to share this with me. She has not shared it with her father yet. She is not comfortable talking to him about her life. This puts me in an awkward spot. I have always told her the most important thing to me is that she is happy. Even before this news. I just listened to your interview on the ABC - I am currently in Queensland. She was just here for 2 weeks with me and I can see that she is still struggling with her journey as am I. The bit you voiced about the difference between loving your child and accepting their identity was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. I certainly love her wholeheartedly, but accepting this has been harder. It is as though I am grieving the loss of what I had hoped for, for her life. I worry that her life will be more difficult. That she will have to face nonacceptance from the world around her and that is what worries me. She has not actually been in a relationship yet with anyone and who she ends up with is unknown at this time. It has forced me to face some of my own demons. As much as I have worked hard over my own life to not care what others think, this has made me realize I have not quite got there yet. When I introduce her to people, I sense them judging her and I don't like it. I want them to see her. Not her identity. I find myself wanting to tell them all the wonderful things about her, lest they think she is strange or odd. She is in the celebratory stage of her identity based on your description. I am working on my acceptance and realize it is the only choice I have if I want to continue to have a close and loving relationship with my precious girl. Your book has come to me at just the right time. Thank you.