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Tara
Howland
Borderline personality disorder
Nj ,
USA
My daughter is 19 years old and has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. It is considered one the most difficult mental illnesses to suffer with and to deal with for the sufferer and their family and the provider. My other daughter is 15 and is openly gay with ADHD and severe anxiety. My older daughter has a very high IQ and due to bpd being highly disregarded with a very low success rate until adulthood insurance is really of no help. Resources are very low to none at all. My daughter is barely functioning as an adult. Her potential could be boundless but her emotions, her bpd or diagnosis is always in the way. Some will say she's on the wrong meds or shouldn't be at all. They won't talk to us any longer so will only hear what she has to say and bpd is a munipulstive disorder to begin with. The sufferer can not control what they say from day to day so the truth never comes out from therapist to therapist so she never gets the help she needs. It's a never ending black hole. My younger daughter has suffered greatly from this and all the broken walls and fits and emotional strain on everyone. I have suffered. But most of all my daughter with bpd suffers. Both of my children can be amazing. I just feel that no one will listen and the resources just aren't there. I took my other daughter for autism testing and they told me she is not autistic. Yet she feels she is not of human form and can think more like animals and she is also extremely math oriented. She has quirks and things that point in that direction and to some degree I feel they didn't do their job when they tested her. Our lives have been nothing short of chaotic since Dakota (19) has been 12 yrs old and the light left her eyes. She's been hospitalized 3 times acutely. In residential once. She has been through at least six months total of intensive therapies. And months and months of other therapies. She left highschool and never was able to live normally. I feel that this world has failed her. As parents we have tried and tried and exhausted every resource available and now she's considered an adult and so we are not even able to speak anymore. It's just a mess. The system is a failure to kids who need it. Who have potential. And borderline is dismissed as too difficult. It needs more awareness! Thank you.